Missing My Kids at College: Why Am I Happy?
Why am I sad?
I just got off the phone with our baby girl. My daughter, Kiera, started college a few weeks ago, she’s about 5 hours away. She used to be about 5 seconds away, down the hall or up the stairs for nearly 19 short years.
Why does my heart hurt?
Our baby boy and Kiera’s twin brother, Liam, also began his college career. A few weeks ago we dropped him off, he’s less than an hour away. It’s comforting to know he’s not far, but the feelings are the same.
Why do I feel empty?
We experienced this with our oldest, Tyler, many years ago. The feeling then was very similar, but different in many ways. We still had two other kids in the house, we weren’t “empty nesters,” yet. He’s off on his own now and doing well.
Why do I cry?
Every morning before I left for work I would walk down the hall to tell them I love them and say goodbye. They were asleep and rarely heard me. “Love you Sweetsie, love my girl,” “Love you buddy, love my boy.” Every morning for years and years. I still do the same thing every morning even though they’re not there. I walk into clean, organized, and childless rooms, and say goodbye to no one.
Why do I feel good?
My wife, Kathleen, and I remind each other that this is what we’ve worked for. Our kids are successfully navigating their lives and seem to be happy doing so. This is what we wanted, it would be selfish to not feel good about this.
We miss them like crazy, but we also love the time the two of us have together. We like that we don’t have to cook dinner every night, we can go out more, and there’s less cleaning or laundry to do.
So if you have college kids who just left this year, I hope you can look on the bright side even though you’re sad sometimes.