Ways to Get Closer and Learn More About Your Dad This Father’s Day
Everyone thinks that most dads don’t want to share their feelings, and want to be viewed as strong and fearless. That’s not the findings of a new survey that shows fathers really want to share their feelings.
Father’s Day is coming up and according to a survey conducted by OnePoll for Ancestry.com, 83% of dads want to share their stories with their kids. They even found that they want to do so even more so than moms do, at 79%.
Here’s the reason they are hesitant to do so, the findings show that 84% of dads say no family members have asked them to. This should not be a surprise considering that only one in four Americans or 25% are familiar with what their father’s life was like before they became a dad.
The survey also discovered that 86% of men are curious about their parents’ lives before they had kids, but that compared to only 75% of women. Additionally, men are more familiar with their parents’ lives than their wives are.
So, if your dad doesn’t like to share, or is hesitant to talk about his pre-marriage or pre-fatherhood life, Ancestry.com has some tips that can possibly cause your father to be more comfortable opening up.
They suggest that you “Start Small. Ask simple questions about Dad’s past that are lighthearted. For example, ‘What was the first concert you ever went to?’ or ‘What clubs and activities were you involved in at school?’ Small questions can build into deeper conversations.”
Another idea is to engage in a “walk and talk.” They say that if you want, “To deepen bonds with a parent, do an activity both people enjoy doing so the connection comes naturally and the conversation feels more organic. Take a walk together, cook a favorite dish, or head to a museum.”
Even if your dad doesn’t open up the way you hope, it’s likely you both will enjoy the time together.
Survey Results of the Top 5 Food Crimes as Rated by Italians
Putting Ketchup on Spaghetti
Organic ketchup (Photo by Scott Olson/Getty Images)
This crime ranked as the most egregious, with 64.6% saying it was unacceptable for anyone to do such a thing. I tried to fool my kids with this one when I didn’t feel like heating up the gravy/sauce, and they weren’t happy about it.
Pineapple on Pizza
Hawaiian pizza (Photo by Angelika Warmuth/picture alliance via Getty Images)
62% said putting pineapple on pizza ranked as the second-most awful food crime. I disagree with this one. I don’t seek it out, but if it’s served, I’ll eat it and don’t have a problem with it.
Soaking Pasta in Cold Water
A man puts a lid on a pot of boiling water and spaghetti noodles. Photo: Monika Skolimowska/dpa (Photo by Monika Skolimowska/picture alliance via Getty Images)
I’ve never heard of this, but some people will put pasta in cold water and then boil it rather than put it into water that’s already boiling. This is the third most disliked thing we do that Italians disagree with. Nearly 57% say it’s wrong.
Cutting Spaghetti with a Knife
Italian supporters hold a banner reading “Stop cutting spaghetti grazie” (Photo by Fabrice COFFRINI / AFP) (Photo by FABRICE COFFRINI/AFP via Getty Images)
I can’t figure out why anyone would do this, but some do. I know the “swirl the fork into the spoon trick” which works well, but the idea of chopping up the pasta makes no sense.
Not Sharing Food
Spaghetti alla bolognese with parmesan cheese (Photo by Beata Zawrzel/NurPhoto via Getty Images)
Apparently, keeping food to yourself is also frowned upon by Sicilians. I don’t think I would do well with this one.A couple other things that they don’t care for are adding cream to carbonara (I’ve never done this), adding cheese to a seafood dish, or eating pizza with a knife and fork.
