Find Real Love After 40
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Jennifer Wexler is author of the new book, Find Real Love After 40. In her book, she gives tips on how to spot a phony guy who cares more about himself and his image than an authentic connection.
The FIVE Red Flags That Scream PHONY:
- Beware the perfect online profile. They create idealized versions of themselves because they’re seeking the attention of many women. You may believe that these men are looking for a relationship but they’re actually interested in being liked and admired by lots of women. When you read a man’s profile has he listed all of his accomplishments, does it feel like you’ve just read his resume? Does it feel like he’s bragging? Red Flag!
- Not interested in a long term, monogamous relationship. In their profile, these men will talk about their hobbies, their goals, maybe their kids, but they won’t mention anything about wanting a long term relationship. Speaking of not wanting a relationship, fake men may try to ask you for your personal information i.e. email, address or phone number. They will want to meet too quickly and then inevitably they will also want sex too soon.
- They’re often shallow. In their profiles, they’ll use words like “I have high standards” or “I’m highly successful.” Be careful of men who lack character. With fake men, you can’t get a sense of their values. As high-quality women, you’re looking for a man whose values are aligned with yours. If a man doesn’t reveal his values, continue scrolling. He’s not your guy!
- Struggle with telling the truth. If you’ve ever been on a few dates with a fake man you’ll notice that his stories are inconsistent. He may not have integrity, meaning his words and actions do not match. For instance, he may tell you that he’s going to call you on Tuesday and he may not call you until Thursday or he may not call you at all. This makes trusting a fake man impossible. Don’t waste your time!
- Too much money talk. Most of the time, those that are well off don’t typically spend the time bragging about it. You should be weary of a man who wants to tell you all the time about how much money he makes. He might in fact be broke. Red flag! This will lead right into the way he talks about his job or career. Is he claiming to be self-employed but yet has a hard time explaining what he does? You might later come to find out he’s actually unemployed.
Listen to What Are You Talking About:
Meet Maryann, who has been chasing magic since the early 90s. Back then, she hosted a love and dedication show at nights on Magic. Talk about romantic vibes! Since then, she traded her evening slot for mornings. When she’s not talking to you on the air, she’s living the glamorous life of a chicken, duck, pigeon, and German Short-Haired Pointer mom. Since Joel can never follow what she says, there is an entire feature called " What are you Talking About" at 9:10. Running is her secret to staying out of trouble – or at least staying ahead of the extra pounds. She has a husband named Matt, and a son named Zack, who she says makes her world a little adventure.
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